Public Transportation
Being a Peer Bridger and working in an Assisted Living Facility, one of my main responsibilities is helping residents regain their sense of belonging, inclusion, and involvement in community activities. However, due to a traumatic experience where I was assaulted on public transportation, using these modes of transportation has become a challenge for me.
Despite this, I have always maintained open and honest communication with the community I serve.
One day, we planned a community outing to explore Jamaica Ave, go shopping, and enjoy some pizza. As a Peer Bridger, I use my personal experiences to support my clients, but I have my own fears and demons that I must face. The anxiety leading up to the outing was overwhelming, and I struggled to get a good night's sleep. I wondered how I would explain to the residents that I had a fear of using public transportation. Would they think less of me or feel that I couldn't provide the best support?
Before leaving the facility, I approached one of the clients and asked if he was familiar with taking the bus and train. When he responded positively, I had the courage to share my fear with him.
To my surprise, the other two residents overheard our conversation and admitted to feeling scared as well. One of them hadn't taken public transportation in over 20 years, saying that the last time he used public transportation, he remembered using tokens, Lol.
We laughed together, and one client enthusiastically said, "Today is the day!
We have each other's back. We won't leave you alone." Their loving support was evident as we lined up for the bus, with them guiding me to the front. Once on board, the client who was more familiar with the bus system took charge. He asked me to sit next to the resident who was least experienced with the bus. And this client and the other one strategically placed themselves, ensuring our safety and comfort throughout the trip. Their periodic check-ins and informative updates made me feel secure.
When we arrived at Jamaica Ave, Queens, their cheers and celebration of my successful ride was very cute!
I fought back tears, expressing deep gratitude for their unconditional support.
We were able to complete all our planned activities, and during lunch, they continued to reassure me about the ride back to the assisted living facility, I thanked them for making this outing a life-changing experience.
I appreciated their compassion, protection, and non-judgment, allowing me to conquer my fears.
Before ending the day, as I expressed my gratitude once again, one of the residents said something that will forever stay with me. He thanked me for being real, for always having their back, and for showing them that a better life was possible and deserved.
With tears streaming down my face, I thanked them for their kind words and for being such incredible companions on this journey. When I returned back to my office, I couldn't control my emotions. I was a mess, deeply moved by the genuine nature of their expressions.
I am truly grateful and fortunate to be surrounded by such wonderful human beings. Their love and support remind me why I am passionate about my work and inspire me to continue making a positive impact in their lives.
Lola Alvarez